Dear Pastor Coomer,
I am praying for your upcoming Biblical Counseling Conference and for those attending. I hope those attending will realize this is a once in a life time opportunity. We learned so much when we were with you and Kim! We are applying everything! What a joy it has been for both of us to Biblically change our lives. There is no turning back to our old ways. We both are Bible College graduates and we had never heard before what you taught us. The things you taught us from the Bible make so much Biblical sense. God through you has changed our lives forever! I decided to teach in our church How to Have a Real Relationship With God and we are seeing a dramatic change in our church and in people’s lives. I love the verses you showed us in 1 Peter 3:8-10, Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: (9) Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. (10) For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Where before we were arguing and fighting all the time and saying very hurtful things, we have now learned how to be Spirit controlled people. For the first time in our Christian lives, we now really love life and are having good days! I cannot say thank you enough Pastor Coomer. We are praying for you!
Pastor and wife
When we entered the Hope Biblical Counseling Center program in the spring of 2009, we were desperate to find real, biblical answers to the issues we faced in our marriage that were stifling our spiritual growth and negatively affecting the spiritual and emotional well-being of our young children. We were both recently saved, and we quickly learned how to put on a good Christian happy face for our church family. But behind the scenes, we were struggling terribly without our pasts, our lusts, and our spiritual and emotional immaturity. During our time in counseling, Pastor and Mrs. Coomer lovingly and patiently discipled us into a real relationship with God through His Word that is personal and passionate. We no longer put on a happy face and play the part of good Christians we actually have real, Christ-like joy that comes from submitting to God and to one another. Six years later, we continue to thrive in our marriage and in our relationship with God, and our children are growing in the Lord with a fervent desire to love Him and serve Him passionately. Whereas once we were living on the fringes of Christianity as outsiders looking in, now we have become role models for other believers, and we have had wonderful opportunities to share what we have learned with others in spiritual need. We are living proof that, no matter what their past, there is nothing that God cannot do with someone who is willing to submit to godly counsel and determine to make change in their life to honor and glorify God. We are so very thankful for the change that God has wrought in our lives with the help and encouragement that we received from Hope Biblical Counseling Center. To God be the glory; great things He hath done!
When I first started counseling I was, what you would call,”A silent rebel”. On the outside I looked right, acted right, and talked right, but none of it was real in my life, because in my heart I was living for my lusts. I would try took put on a good front (play a part) for church, my parents, and my Pastor, but the one area I couldn’t control was my thought life. No matter how hard I tried my wicked thoughts would always show themselves in words first and then in actions. I realized I was a lost person and I repented of my sins and received Jesus Christ as my Saviour. Then when Pastor Coomer showed me from the Bible that the key to long-term Biblical change is to DAILY submit to God; renew your mind in his word; and have a real, intimate, personal, and passionate relationship with Him, that I was able to gain control of my thought life and have a real, joyful Christian life. Through Hope Biblical Counseling Center I have been given all the tools needed to change my life; now it’s my responsibility to use them.
Through the biblical counseling center my life has completely changed. Matthew 23:28 says “Even so ye also outwardly appear righteous unto men, but within ye are full of hypocrisy and iniquity. That was my life. I was faking it, I knew how to look and act. I knew how to be the proper Christian everyone expected me to be. I was miserable, faking it with everyone I knew. I then entered the counseling program. I realized I was lost and received Jesus Christ as Saviour. I learned how to have a real intimate personal and passionate relationship with God and that you have to be transparent. I was not transparent at all before. My life has changed dramatically for the better because of counseling.
When I began having weekly counseling sessions at the Hope Biblical Counseling Center, my life was complete misery. I was born into a Christian family with first generation Christian parents. I have gone to church my entire life. When I was four years old, I accepted Jesus Christ as my Saviour. Because of sin in my life, there have been times that I have doubted my salvation, but the Biblical counseling I received showed me why I was so miserable. I no longer have those doubts, but I know for sure today that the Holy Spirit dwells within me. Growing up I have always been homeschooled or gone to a private school. My parents have always tried to do what is best for me in all areas of my life. Since we were Christians, we knew that we should act like Christians. My life has always been about doing what is right, but my motives were wrong. I wanted to look good to everyone around me, I wanted friends, I didn’t want God’s judgment upon my life, I wanted my parent’s approval, and as a Christian kid in a Christian home and school, doing right is just what you did. I had a lot of good reasons for doing right, but none of the reasons were good enough to deny myself of my lusts and live a godly life. Although I was saved, I still had my old nature. I had no clue about having a real relationship with God, the Holy Spirit’s work in my life, or any practical tools to defeat my lusts. On the outside, I was pretty much the “perfect kid”. No one could see the lusts that tore at me from inside. My life was truly a miserable existence. I sincerely wanted to do right, but I also wanted my lusts. I would secretly act on my lusts and dwell on them mentally, but my outside was a persona of holiness. I could manipulate and twist any situation into making myself look like an angel. All around me I saw hypocrites. All of my classmates were completely two-faced, and I was constantly hearing of some Christian who had messed up their life. As a “sheltered” Christian child, I had no idea about the miseries that living for the world brings. Although my parents did not yet have the necessary tools they needed to live for God correctly, they had grown up in the world and knew how heinous it truly was. Even if their Christian life was miserable, they knew it was still better than going back to the chaos of the world. I didn’t have their experiences though. All I knew was that I was sick of acting like a Christian when it produced no joy. I began to grow bitter and rebellious. I started down a path of pride and lust. At the time, this path brought much more joy than acting like a Christian brought. The pleasures of sin were only for a season, but my thought was, “At least I’m getting some pleasure. Some pleasure now, with pain later, is way better than no pleasure and constant misery.” I enjoyed my lusts, and nothing was going to stop me from getting them. I was on a path of self-destruction, but at least I was having fun. By the time I began receiving help from Hope Biblical Counseling Center, my parents and a few others knew that I had issues, but I still looked like a ‘good kid’ to most everyone. I eventually agreed to receive some Biblical counseling. Again I twisted the situation to make it seem like this is what I wanted. In all reality, I was continuing to live for my lusts and just do enough to put on a show for others. As I began to receive the Biblical counseling, I did only the bare minimum of what was required. Everything I did was done mechanically with no desire to change my life. I was just getting by. My lusts continued to dominate my life, and my pride grew. I had seen almost every single one of my friends leave home and live for the world. My two-faced life was too miserable to continue, and I came to a crossroad of living for my lusts or serving God. In my pride and bitterness against God and everyone in authority, I was ready to go my own way. I knew I would have God’s judgment upon my life, but that was the future. I wanted to be happy now! Thankfully, God broke my pride. Without going into details, God showed me just how miserable sin is, and how fast and hard He can bring me down. I came to the lowest point of my life, so low that not living began to seem like a better option. At this critical point in my life, I made my first mature decision: I decided to live for the future. I saw the change that had taken place in my parent’s lives from applying the truths they had received from Hope Biblical Counseling Center. I also saw that others who had been through the Biblical counseling program had completely changed their lives and now had true joy. I began to apply the truths and tools I was learning, and I started to build a real relationship with God. No longer was I just attempting to just follow the rules, but I was fellowshipping with my Heavenly Father. God began to show me so much in my life. I developed a love for Him and His Word. God began to speak to me and answer my prayers. I had finally found the true joy that I had been searching for my entire life. The temporary pleasures that my lusts brought were not enough to ruin my sweet fellowship with God. Nothing is greater than being in fellowship with the Creator of the universe! When I was nine years old, God called me to preach, and I surrendered my life to God. Because of my lustful living, I had completely forgotten about my commitment to God. It is only by God’s mercy that He spared me and allowed me to remain useful for Him. In May of last year (2014), God made it clear to me that He wants me to serve Him as a Pastor and Biblical counselor. My relationship with God has developed beyond what I thought possible, and it continues to grow. I am filled with joy! God has given me an abundant life! He answers prayers for me daily. I no longer just try to do right because I can be right through my relationship with God. I am still human, I still have lusts, and I still sin, but now when I sin, I confess my sin and repent of it, and God fills me with His joy as I fellowship with Him.
I am so thankful for God’s mercy and for all the time, effort, patience and help that Hope Biblical Counseling Center and Pastor Coomer has given me. Through the practical Biblical counseling I have received. I have been given the tools to turn over any lust or fear to God. I now understand how to live a life that is cleansed from sin and filled with the Holy Spirit, so that I am in constant fellowship with God!